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A New York Love Story


Everything the dating “experts” tell you NOT to do/expect is pretty much a part of our story. 

1. We met in a club

2. Became “familiar” quickly. 😂 

3. Had in-house dates early on.  

4. Dealt with ex drama

5. Broke up & got back together.

6. Moved in before engagement or any talk of marriage.  

7. No magical marriage proposal moment.  


BUT, here we are, happy and in love.  

Funny thing though: we *almost* didn’t even make it to our first date. So here’s the story:

Dre and I met at a club. 😳 It was my friend’s birthday and we had plans to go to Atlantic City for the weekend. At the last minute, she changed her mind and another friend of ours invited us to a party that she was working (as a a promoter). There were 3 of us, my friend & her boyfriend, and me. I knew a lot of people there, so I did my little social butterfly thing and roamed around/danced alone most of the evening so her and the bf could hang. At one point, I wandered, tipsy and in a great mood, over to the bar to get a glass of water - where I bumped into Dre. Literally fell into his arms. The dress I had on had an open back and his hand found his way to my bare back and conversation ensued.

Me: My back is sweaty.

Dre: *shrugs* I don’t care, do you? 

Me: *shrugs* not really.  

I don’t quite remember what else was said #blamethevodka, but at some point he introduced me to his sister and friend who he’d come to the party with. I do remember mentioning where I lived, and him saying that his friend lived a block away. He’ll say I invited him over to our table for a drink but I don’t remember that, I just remember that once I walked away, I kept seeing him every time I turned around. On the dance floor, by the stairs, by our table. LOL. I gave him (& 2 other guys) my number that cold, December Saturday night.


I had heard from the other two already, but by Tuesday evening, hadn’t heard a peep from Mr. Touch My Sweaty Back. LATE that night - like after midnight - I finally get a text, “hey, can you talk?”

Um, no. *ignore* And best believe I won’t be talking to him if he decides to call later. Who does he think he is that he can text me that late, for the first time, and I’m supposed to be ready and willing to talk at that hour. No, again.


I get a call the next afternoon from the same number. *sends to voicemail*

And I was determined to not even listen to the message. But my curiosity got the best of me, so I finally checked it as I was heading home from work that day.

Ugh. He has a nice voice. DOUBLE UGH. He’s witty & funny.

So now I have to call him back. I don’t really know what it was, but something about hearing his voice made me smile. Just typing this out now gives me that same happy feeling - what we later called the “warm & fuzzies” for each other.

On that call, we planned a first date, and well, it never happened. HE STOOD ME UP!

Not really, but I like to say that. LOL! He called me a few hours before our date and told me he was styling a photoshoot and it was running later than he expected so he wouldn’t be able to make it, and politely asked if we could reschedule.

He was STYLING A PHOTOSHOOT. If that right there doesn’t tell me we were meant to be together…! So yeah, we rescheduled, had a blast (even though our friends who were on the double date with us were kissing before we’d even hugged each other LOL) and, well there’s a whole lot of other stuff that happened before we got here, but I’m sure you’re just ready to see some cute kids. Maybe I’ll share more of our story later. Until then, feast on the cuteness!


Don't just sit there - 3 Tips to Keep Moving When You're Unsure of the Next Steps

Photography by:  Carissa and Ben  in Albuqurque, NM Top & Jacket: Thrifted Pants: Zara Shoes:  ShoeDazzle

Photography by: Carissa and Ben in Albuqurque, NM
Top & Jacket: Thrifted
Pants: Zara
Shoes: ShoeDazzle

At times, I find myself unsure of the next steps, and I used to completely shut down when that happened. Figuring that since I didn’t know where to go, I’d just sit. I can’t tell you how many times I completely stopped moving when it came to Vetu de Joy because I was stuck and had no idea what to do next. I’d sit on my hands, afraid to misstep, and sometimes, afraid to take any steps at all. This not only cost me MONEY but it cost me some of my esteem! I started feeling like I didn’t know what to do because maybe I just wasn’t good enough to be doing it. Smh.

Not taking any steps turned out to be way worse than making a wrong turn. Action is absolutely essential to creating momentum, and when we stand still, we’re basically telling the Universe that we don’t want anything and don’t want to go anywhere. So guess what we get? Nothing. Once you start taking those steps, no matter how small, it triggers everything around you to also start moving.


So when you feel stuck, uninspired, and overwhelmed with what comes next, here are some tips I’ve used to help me keep going:

1. Breathe. Really. Sometimes you just have to stop, breathe, and realize how difficult you’re making things. We do it to ourselves, and a lot of times, we can undo it. Take some time to get some deep breaths in, clear your mind of all the clutter and do what feels right, instead of overthinking.

Random note, but my twist out was ON POINT during this shoot. LOL!

Random note, but my twist out was ON POINT during this shoot. LOL!

2. Ask for advice. This is a tough one for me. I always think I can figure it out myself, but sometimes, we just can’t. Don’t be afraid to display a little vulnerability and ask for help. Talk to a friend, a loved one or someone else who has worked on a similar project what they think of the work you’ve done so far, and how you could take things to the next level. Even if you don’t follow their advice to the T, you may get some nuggets of inspiration that may propel you forward.


3. Step away. Not for good! But maybe it’s just for an hour or a week, give yourself time to focus on something else. You never know where your next idea or next piece of inspiration will come from, and it may come when you step away from your project briefly (given pending deadlines). You may walk back to it with a renewed sense of vigor!


Think of it this way, when you get into your car, type the directions into your phone/GPS, start the ignition, put on your seatbelt, but fail to put the car in Drive and press the gas? Guess what… the GPS isn’t going to give you any directions, and you won’t get any until you put the car in Drive and start moving! Even if you start heading the wrong way, the GPS will tell you, “make a legal u-turn”. There’s no need to fear a misstep because in some way, you’ll be redirected onto the correct path.


What do you to to get unstuck? Share your tips in the comments!

3 Ways to Style a Striped Blazer


I’m sure you know by now, about my love of stripes. So when i saw this Zara blazer, it was an automatic purchase for me, because I knew I’d be able to wear it so many times, in so many different ways.

Although you don’t see them often here, I wear jeans a lot in my every day life. They’re easy to throw on, whether with sneakers, boots or heels, and you can wear pretty much anything with them. For a simple look, wear your striped blazer with a plain tee, a pair of distressed denim and a cute pair of pumps. I added a floral pair…because #mixedprints, but any pair will do!


More in line with what you see me in on a regular basis, I styled my vertically-striped Zara blazer with a diagonally-striped dress! I purchased these pieces at the same time, but didn’t think to wear them together until I took them both out of the box. I mean… they really couldn’t be a more perfect match!


Keeping with adding more color to the look, I paired the blazer with a pair of red pants and a grey graphic tee. I threw on a bold statement necklace and a pair of rhinestone booties to complete my rocker-mom chic look.


I need a break.

I need a break.

So I'm taking one. Sounds simple, but it took me a lot of soul searching for me to reach this point. I've felt like Vêtu de Joy was my *thing* - like it's what made me special, having a shop full of these gorgeous clothes, and I wasn't yet ready to give up on that. I had toyed with the idea to give it a rest while I was pregnant with Elle, which is why I took a bit of time off then as well. But I felt re-invigorated and decided to go full-steam ahead once she was a few months old.

Leggings ARE Pants...

Billie Jean Moto Preggo Leggings  (I'm usually a size 6/8 and I'm wearing a L)

Billie Jean Moto Preggo Leggings
(I'm usually a size 6/8 and I'm wearing a L)

...when you're pregnant, at least.

One thing I I'd always been adamant about, was that I wouldn't wear leggings as pants. That ALL changed during this pregnancy! They are pretty much all I wear around the house, and I've been wearing them outside of the house too - to work, to events, even!

I've recently found the BEST maternity leggings ever in Preggo Leggings. Not only are they super comfortable, but they don't even *look* like leggings! I have the Billie Jean Moto pair and I am SO in love with them. The belly band is big enough to cover my 35 week belly, and while they fit nice and snug, they don't feel like they're too tight or constricting.


For this look, I paired them with a black turtleneck, layered under a printed shirt dress and vintage wool blazer. I really had intentions to not get any (or many) maternity clothes this time around, but I'm SO happy with this pair of maternity leggings. They will be easy to dress down as well, with a pair of riding boots or sneakers, a sweater, leather jacket... so many options! 

How would you wear them?


If you're looking for the perfect pair of stylish & comfy maternity pants, check out Preggo Leggings! I promise, you won't be disappointed.

All about the boots.


These boots were a Christmas gift last year, and I've only worn them a handful of times - even though I'm madly in love with them! The color, the fit (I can't say they're too comfortable, though), the fabrication... they just take any outfit to another level. I bought this dress at Zara, in a size larger than I'd normally wear, thinking that I'd later be able to either belt it or wear it open as a second layer. For today, it's the perfect non-maternity, maternity dress. :-)